Released on = July 6, 2006, 5:57 am

Press Release Author = MarriageAdvice.com

Industry = Consumer Services

Press Release Summary =
A new poll by MarriageAdvice.com reveals optimistic statistics about what keeps
marriages together.

Press Release Body =

A recent MarriageAdvice.com poll asked the question, \"Why Do You Stay Married?\" Of
the 700 people who responded to the poll, 30% stayed together due to love; 30%
stayed together because of children; and 20% stayed together out of commitment.

Marriage and Family Counselor, Deborah Carver, LMSW, noted that we should realize
the fact that those who answered they stayed married because of love or children,
are also committed to either their spouse or children. So commitment comes into
play on several levels.
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I\'ve Fallen Out Of Love
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Carver opined that, \"people who stay married out of love are working hard at their
marriage. A popular catch phrase these days is, \'I've fallen out of love." She
advised that this attitude is a cop out because everyone knows that a good marriage
takes work; we love the things we take time and energy with.

Beth Young, Senior Editor of MarriageAdvice.com shared that there are several ways
to keep your marriage strong and stay in love. \"First, always take time each day to
talk daily; second, be sure to invest in a weekly date night; third, look for
opportunities to show your love to your spouse."
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You\'re Not Just Obligated To Your Spouse
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When we consider the rational of staying married for the children we may think that
those people are staying married for the wrong reason. However, Carver advised
that, \"Most people in a committed marriage recognize the negative impact it would
have on their children if they got a divorce. They realize that they are not just
obligated to their spouse; they are obligated to their children as well.\"
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What Our Parents Modeled
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As we consider those respondents that have stayed married due to commitment. We
need to realize that it is a reflection of their own personal integrity that they
stand by the values they were taught.

Carver explained, \"Those who stay in a marriage due to their commitment not only
reflect their personal integrity, they are probably following what was modeled by
their parents. Even if their parents had struggles they stuck it out.\"
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We Have A Choice
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We need to realize that we are responsible for our success and happiness in a
marriage. Carver explained, "When you choose to be the \"victim\" of a loveless
marriage, then you can better justify the anger and other feelings you may have
about your situation. However, we are betraying ourselves of who we could be in our
life by being a \"victim\" rather than doing what it takes to fix what we can and find
happiness regardless of where we may be.\"
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The Strength Of Our Families
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In conclusion, Carver identified an important insight; \"Whether we stay married for
love, children or commitment, these top three reasons all ring loudly of family and
the structure of our society with families and family values.\"





Web Site = http://www.marriageadvice.com

Contact Details = Beth Young